Some men do not have a clue what women want from them. They stumble when it comes to the little things and focus too much on the big things. It is not all about your money, your car, and things you can buy or provide for us. All of this is nice however, what we really need is fairly simple.
What Women Want…. A list of 10 things we really expect of you.
Spend quality time.. We really enjoy spending quality time with you. Slow down and make time for us. Put away the distractions, the computers, the TV, the over demanding work schedule and have some alone time just you and your partner. A simple relaxing evening on the porch swing, a romantic home cooked meal with nice conversation, and a walk on a nice afternoon are all great and budget friendly ways to reconnect with your sweetheart.
Be dominant and take control of situations… Whether we all admit it or not, most of us gals feel more secure and protected when our man takes the leadership role in the relationship. Some guys who are naturally more passive may have a hard time with this. We are not asking you to be a super hero. Just get in touch with your inner manly assertiveness. Show us you can lead, protect and take care of business. Do not leave it up to us to take that role.
Be romantic.. You should already know this but we love romance. If you want to capture our hearts and make us fall madly in love, be romantic! Plan a surprise romantic date. Cook us a nice candlelit meal. There are so many ways you can pull this off but you really need to dig down deep and get in touch with your romantic side.
Help out around the house and with the children… Our schedules are so full and demanding and if we work outside of the home (a lot of us do) we are busy from sun up to sun down and then some. We need all hands on deck when it comes to taking care of the daily household chores and caring for the children. If you take over a generous amount of chores around the house and volunteer to take the children to soccer practice, dance or any other activities they are involved in, this is a sure way to ease some of the stress on your partner and I promise you she will be grateful for your help.
Be our friend.. Yes we have our girlfriends, but to have a true and bonded relationship with you, we need you to be our friend as well. We need open and honest communication. We need to connect with you and share some common interests. We need to know that when the world has smashed us down to near ashes, you are the one last spark that is just enough to rekindle our fire for life again.
Be a good listener… Sometimes we need to vent. I know, you probably think we do that way too much already. You are right, we should not completely dump our feelings on you all the time but we do need you to be a good listener when we are having a really bad day or are in serious need of an open ear. We do not expect you to be able to fix every problem that heads our way. Simple listening and a consoling hug are enough to show us you care.
Show interest in what we enjoy… Having a common interest is an important aspect in any relationship. Of course we are not going to always like what you enjoy or you like what we enjoy, however there should be at least one or two activities that we can both enjoy together. Our hobbies and pursuits of happiness may not be your cup of tea, but if you will at least take just a few minutes of your time and devote it to listening to us tell you about our adventures and show some genuine interest, this is a sure way to increase the reading on our love meter.
Have a good sense of humor and a positive attitude… Even on a bad day a good sense of humor can lighten an otherwise miserable load and that is what women want and need. We love to laugh and laughing puts us in a better mood. A guy with a good sense of humor is a true asset to a girl. We also like for you to have a positive and upbeat attitude. Who wants to spend time with (or much less their life with) someone who sits around complaining and always having something negative to say? Negative personalities eat holes in relationships. We really do not have the time to dedicate to guy with a bad attitude.
What Women Want Is For Their Man To Have a sense of style…
Yes guys, we do care about how you look. Whether we have been dating a few weeks or married for years, you should still at least try to assemble some sort of presentable appearance especially if we are out in public. I am not saying you should dress to the hilt when sitting around at home but if you put an effort into being presentable and coordinated out in public that says a lot about how you feel about pleasing us and how you take care of business as an individual.
Have a sensitive side… You do not have to be tough all the time around us. We understand that is the common ground you share with your guy friends but we need you to be sensitive when matters call for it. It is ok to shed a tear and it is ok to be emotional. It shows you are human and that you care. We are not asking for you to turn into a tear soaked cry baby but just show your sensitivity when the time and place is ripe for it.